“Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ.” (Eph. 4:15 NIV)
In the arms race of far too many conversations nowadays, where each is vying for their due homage from the other, there is a better way to communicate, build unity and move forward (either as an organization or as individuals in life). This will be mind-alteringly brilliant, but hang on:
Fall in love with the Creator of the other.
A couple of simple observations:
1. God made them.
2. God didn’t screw up.
3. God made you.
4. God didn’t screw up on you either.
Within this simple matrix of beliefs, the capacity for appreciation of the other is possible without lessening your own self worth. This person is neither my enemy nor my competitor, they are my unique equal. Using this newfound respect, begin to look at them with the eyes of He who made them. Begin imagining His purposes in doing so. Call forth their magnificent potential. Speak life-giving truth into their day.
This works well in all situations, including the escalating types, but it works best like a sucker punch – out of the blue of normalcy comes an insightful compliment, a poetically placed truth that inspires the other to be who God created them to be. They are changed. They exist in an elevated state for a while as the reality of another’s belief in them saturates their soul.
Nina is graceful. Her carriage, her conversations, her soul. It is as though she walks in a beauty pageant her every day. She exudes and gives grace to those around her as though sowing seeds without awareness.
Scott is caring. He loads his own back to lighten yours. He walks lightly while carrying great weight that his family, friends and village would not notice his burden. He is simple in these guestures without fanfare or bombast. He smiles as he picks up some of your load, and his joy is increased.
In truly beginning to see others, you will see yourself more clearly.
Change someone’s world today. Speak the truth in love.